An Article Written by: Kenneth L. Martin Jr.
September 30, 2009
Marriage is a spiritual bonding and union that brings two hearts, and souls together, blending the thoughts, gifts, and passions of each to a wonderful melodious harmony. It is God's gift to mankind, though this thought is opposed by most of the society that we live in. With all of the negative stereotypes and oppositions to marriage, we often need to be reaffirmed and strengthened in our union to insure a lasting and loving life together. Today I offer 5 simple principles that have helped me and I believe will benefit you should you desire to maintain a healthy and happy relationship together.
1. Tell the Truth
It is very easy at times to avoid confrontation by withholding information from your spouse. This is not a good idea. Even though you may get an initial benefit of peace, later the dishonesty will manifest itself in frustration and possible feelings of isolation and misunderstanding. Ask God to soften your delivery, and to give you wisdom on how and when to speak the truth, but by all means be honest.
2. Date Him/Her
Just like you did when you first got together, it is imperative that you continue to spend time together just having fun and laughing. Do not allow the daily grind and rush to cause you to cease to look upon one another in the same loving and desiring way. Dating allows us to get out of the formailty and to just be ourselves. You get to see that smile and those dimples that attracted you. That way she walks, and the way he holds your hand. Make it fun and do it often.
3. Romance is Right
Write a letter, Send Flowers, Give a long hug, Kiss softly, Sing a song, take a walk, hold hands, give a massage, have a picnic, take a trip....and so on and so on...Don't let the fire die.
4. Don't be so predictable
If there is anything that can cause a marriage to go stale is predictability all the time. Sometimes, switch it up and do something that you haven't done before. Refuse to do the same thing over and over again, year in and year out. Surprise your mate with something new, maybe a gift, a trip, or just a night out. Pay attention to what they do and make a comment. Take notice of any changes and make a big deal out of it. Remember this is a life long journey…make it count.
5. Love the Lord thy God
Although I placed this at the end, I must say that this one is of upmost importance in all things. God provides the bridge that will get us over and hurdle or gulf of separation. As we grow together as a couple, it is necessary that we individually build on our relationship with the Lord. He will guide us in the stormy times and allow us to share the wonderful joys of the sunny occasions. He is the establisher of the marriage institute and our confession was made before Him. Trust Him to provide the peace, joy, and strength that will make our days together full and complete.
Copyright 2009, Kenneth L. Martin
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