WorshipIdea: Time To Leave Your Church?
by Don Chapman
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Yesterday I talked to a worship leader who told me he was planning on leaving his ministry. It's typical for January - worship leaders have come off a stressful month and many are just plain in shock. Shock and stress alone are no reasons to leave a ministry. Over the years I've found two major indicators of when I should expect to see a change.
1. Restlessness. I have a cousin who was a pastor in a fairly well known, affluent historic church in a major city. Things were going great and he was happy as can be. But restless. He said he felt change was coming. His church was wonderful, but my cousin had taken it as far as he could and things had plateaued. Sure enough, a few months later he took the call to another church across the country where he's been happily ministering.
Some people in ministry take the Apostle Paul approach - their gift is to help struggling ministries get healthy. then when the church has stabilized they move on to another struggling ministry.
Or maybe it's as simple as a worship leader growing in his or her own faith, realizing there's more to life than trying to politically please a stagnant leadership, and yearning for a church on fire where they can get busy for God.
2. Frustration. I had been working in one church for a few years and was as happy as a clam. A friend asked me "why are you still here at this church?" and I replied that I was having the time of my life and had no plans of leaving.
Two weeks later a new elder was elected who had an obvious vendetta against me. I suddenly went from doing everything right to being constantly "in trouble" - everything was wrong, from the songs to the style to the flow. I received another offer and was gone in 6 months (the same elder then proceeded to chase off the youth pastor and assistant pastor.)
There are two morals to this story. First of all, a message to the congregation: if things are going great, keep an eye out for certain pesky elders and deacons who are looking for trouble where there is none. Many of them are unfortunately chosen because they are simply successful businessmen and not Spirit-led. Encourage and defend your staff because they are probably under constant attack and criticism to the point where they wonder "why bother." That, may I add, is why churches are desperate to find good worship leaders - most have quit! I had three emails last week alone from churches looking to fill music positions.
Second of all, notice that I didn't go out looking for something else - I was given an offer. When I'm called to a ministry I assume I'll be there for the rest of my life. My personal modus operandi is to not make a move until God makes it for me - I've never once looked for a church job. This is a major confirmation as to whether I should endure a situation (and try to improve it) or leave.
If I were ever to see this elder again, I'd thank him for running me off. As Joseph said in Genesis 50:20, "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good." If I hadn't left that ministry I would never have gone to Seacoast Church, would never have met Chris Sligh, would never have driven him to all his American Idol auditions, would never have had the exciting, wild ride of a lifetime with the hoopla of Season 6 and would never have had the chance to work with legendary producer Brown Bannister who crafted Chris's recording. Yesterday morning my clock radio woke me up to "Empty Me" and I chuckled at how funny it was to be awoken by Chris's lovely voice on his hit single. I could never have planned anything this incredible on my own so I'm just fine with letting God handle it.
Bottom Line: Ministry frustrations? My simple advice is this: life is way too complicated to figure out on your own - let God lead you. Jeremiah 29:11, Psalm 25:4-5
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